Showing posts with label Mother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mother. Show all posts
Wednesday, October 1, 2014
Reflections, Three Years Without You
Three years ago today my life changed in ways I could have never imagined. A storm began, and I
had the choice to fight through it and become better, or let it knock me down permanently and become bitter. Today I reflect, grieve, and find the things to be thankful for. Today I refresh my path choice of better.
To say that I'm still the same person I was then would be completely wrong. My life was turned upside down and was rocked for a very long long time, one does not come out of that completely unchanged. Yes part of me is still here under it all, but better things emerged out of the ashes.
Monday, October 15, 2012
October 15th
Image courtesy of I Am A Mother To An Angel |
Everyone knows it's Breast Cancer Awareness month, but sharing the month is an equally important cause, Pregnancy and Infant Awareness month. I have been touched by both.
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Monday, May 21, 2012
A Take on "Tan Mom"
I'm sure everyone has heard about the New Jersey mom accused of bringing her five year old into a tanning booth. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she may have brought her kid to the salon, but not into the booth. I have no reason to believe that the child didn't get burnt playing outside, and that what the little girl said at school was misinterpreted due to her mother's appearance. She may not be vigilant on putting sunblock on her child, but as far as I know that isn't illegal, or I know plenty of parents that should have spent a few days in jail, including my own.
Sun exposure releases both melatonin and serotonin into our systems. Melatonin helps regulate our sleep patterns, and we all know regular sleep helps us function better, and serotonin is a feel good hormone. It really doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize, both of those things feel good and anything that makes us feel good can have addictive consequences. It's also not that uncommon for a doctor to recommend someone with depression, especially if it gets worse in the winter where less sun exposure occurs, to regularity sit under artificial UV light. Also there's that whole vitamin D thing, but not relevant for this post. The real issue that everyone is either overlooking, or going about the wrong way, is the harm she is doing to herself.
Image from Sunscreen: New Guidelines this Summer |
Sun exposure releases both melatonin and serotonin into our systems. Melatonin helps regulate our sleep patterns, and we all know regular sleep helps us function better, and serotonin is a feel good hormone. It really doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize, both of those things feel good and anything that makes us feel good can have addictive consequences. It's also not that uncommon for a doctor to recommend someone with depression, especially if it gets worse in the winter where less sun exposure occurs, to regularity sit under artificial UV light. Also there's that whole vitamin D thing, but not relevant for this post. The real issue that everyone is either overlooking, or going about the wrong way, is the harm she is doing to herself.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Mother's Day Fall-Out
http://unspokengrief.com/break-your-silence/?page=i&id=351
"It's amazing how grieving the loss of a child turns into also grieving the loss of people you thought were friends"
The words I never thought I would have to say, but I wrote that, and I refuse to be silenced anymore.
I had a sad moment at the end of the day on Mother's Day when I realized no one I expected to acknowledge I was a mom did. I had one friend, whom I had said it to first, and the lovey commenter on my previous post. In that sad moment I posted on Facebook "Nobody bothers to acknowledge the mother without her child...". I was just venting in the moment never expected anything from it, little did I know I would spend the next two days being ripped apart with drama over it.
"It's amazing how grieving the loss of a child turns into also grieving the loss of people you thought were friends"
The words I never thought I would have to say, but I wrote that, and I refuse to be silenced anymore.
I had a sad moment at the end of the day on Mother's Day when I realized no one I expected to acknowledge I was a mom did. I had one friend, whom I had said it to first, and the lovey commenter on my previous post. In that sad moment I posted on Facebook "Nobody bothers to acknowledge the mother without her child...". I was just venting in the moment never expected anything from it, little did I know I would spend the next two days being ripped apart with drama over it.
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Sunday, May 13, 2012
Mother's Day - A Story of Another Kind of Mother and Loss
This post is inspired by another blog post that I ran across on Facebook... messymiddle.com - an open letter to pastors a non mom speaks about mothers day
I want to take a moment to thank her for saying what other's may be afraid to say. While I'm sure the pastor didn't intentionally try to make anyone feel bad, it really does make you stop and think.
It reminded me of past mother's day's, and the bitterness that sometimes swept across me thinking that I thought I would have children by now, but life doesn't always work out as planned. Everyone that really knows me has told me what a good mom I would be, someday. It also reminded me of a Facebook post last year where a friend was wishing all the mother's out there a happy mother's day. I was being half smart-ass and half serious when I commented do fur babies count? I didn't think I would get a response, but I really didn't think I would get a straight out "No". It stung, not only because I think they do count, because to me they are my babies, but it was another harsh reminder that the thing I wanted most in my life I still hadn't gotten, and at the time I didn't see it happening anytime soon.
This mother's day hurt's even more. I wasn't planning on getting into this so early in my blog, but it has been a big part of my life in the past seven months, so why not get it out into the open. I haven't told a lot of people, but I don't really feel like it should feel like a big bad dark secret either. Those reading this that know me that haven't been told may have already figured it out, to other's this may come as a surprise.
DISCLAIMER: Parts of this post may be slightly graphic or disturbing for the squeamish, and you may need tissues.
I want to take a moment to thank her for saying what other's may be afraid to say. While I'm sure the pastor didn't intentionally try to make anyone feel bad, it really does make you stop and think.
It reminded me of past mother's day's, and the bitterness that sometimes swept across me thinking that I thought I would have children by now, but life doesn't always work out as planned. Everyone that really knows me has told me what a good mom I would be, someday. It also reminded me of a Facebook post last year where a friend was wishing all the mother's out there a happy mother's day. I was being half smart-ass and half serious when I commented do fur babies count? I didn't think I would get a response, but I really didn't think I would get a straight out "No". It stung, not only because I think they do count, because to me they are my babies, but it was another harsh reminder that the thing I wanted most in my life I still hadn't gotten, and at the time I didn't see it happening anytime soon.
Taken at Munsinger Gardens, St. Cloud, MN Summer 2011 |
DISCLAIMER: Parts of this post may be slightly graphic or disturbing for the squeamish, and you may need tissues.
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